My son’s iPod got stolen earlier this year after he left it in his unlocked gym locker. I think he’ s learned his lesson, but I’m wondering if I should get him a new one for Christmas? What message would that send?
If he’s learned his lesson it would be wonderful for him to know he can trust those closest to him to forgive a “mistake” — and he will now learn to take better care of an expensive gift, not take it for granted, and be grateful he has a loving non-punitive parent!
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I guess I am confused how buying him a new one teaches responsibility. I would think that maybe making him prove he can be responsible with expensive things by having him earn it would be more appropriate. If you bought the first one and he was irresponsible, how does it make you a better parent by buying a new one? To me that is enabling. If he has to earn it, that will give him a better understanding on what things cost and maybe he will learn his lesson and be more responsible. I think kids will look at you with more respect when you don’t caudal them and teach them instead of just “forgive” a mistake. Any situation as a parent is an opportunity for you to teach.